How to Make Money Right Now

Have you ever been in the place where you need to make $20 for gas or $100 for food, right now? How about the rent? Is it looming and you don’t have a dime to spare because your car broke down and you couldn’t get to work, so you had to pay for a tow truck and you missed a day’s worth of pay? Yup. Been there too.

I have hovered above and below the poverty line many times in my life. And I’m still here. Clearly, you are too. But I know a lot of times it’s hard to come up with that extra few bucks.

Or maybe you just don’t want to go into that cubicle anymore. Or you’re tired of standing up behind the register – or at the assembly line — or wherever you are making your daily dollar. Are you sick of being away from your kids all day? Are you tired of getting up early, every morning, and shuffling everyone out the door, only to rush home and shuffle out the door again to sports practices, take out food, and no free time ever?

Are you tired of waiting for the weekend and then having the weekend fly by without having a chance to do the things you wanted to do?

Yeah. I know. We were there too.

Everywhere you look, too, people are telling you how to make money from home by doing online surveys, investing in penny stocks, making crafts, or whatever else. And lot of it is crap. Really. I know because I’ve tried it all. As the mother of 8 children, I know that I can’t make a million dollars by knitting bookmarks. Not going to happen.

So…how can you make money, stay home with your kids, and actually pay for all of the things you have to pay for?

Let me help. Why should you pay attention to me? Because I’ve made more financial mistakes than anyone else on the planet. Because I’ve had a credit report that looks like Charles Manson’s rap sheet. Because I have been as poor as poor can be. Because I have used the last $5 in my wallet to purchase flour to make bread to sell at a farmers’ market to feed my kids. And you know what? I make really good bread and did a dang good job.

Why should you pay attention to me, of all people? Because my life isn’t like that anymore. I have made $10,000 in one month on Amazon.com selling stuff that was easily obtained. I have lived in Hawaii, Alaska, and roadtripped around the country for the last five years and have had only taken on “regular” jobs when I thought they were interesting or that the experience would, in some way, benefit me or my family. In most cases, I did learn a lot from these positions, even if I didn’t wish to keep them for very long.

I am a really terrible employee. Not because I’m bad at working, but because I don’t like working for someone else. I am a very hard worker. But I’d rather be home, unschooling my kids, going on field trips with them and enjoying my life with my husband. I don’t want to work for you, or Elon Musk, or anyone else. I want to spend my time with them.

I am also, apparently, not like other people. I do not wish to work for 30 years in the same place and wait for retirement. I want to live my life now! And so I’ve devised ways to do just that.

Guess what? You can do this too. I am not a huckster or a salesperson trying to get you to buy my report telling you how to string beads or “find your passion.” I am, truthfully, just a regular mom of eight kids, who would like to spend her time with them, but also buy food, and electricity, and all that other fun stuff.

I have spent most of my adult life gaining the skills needed to accomplish this.

This book, Make Money Right Now, is on Amazon, is only 99 cents and can show you how to make money fast with very little investment.

If you’d like the free report on how to make money, live at home (not work from home), and enjoy your life more, then fill out this form. I really can help. I know it sounds a little crazy, but if I can do it, so can you!

Why Your Kids Need to Quit School

Because who wants to go to school? No one. Really. Well, me…but I’m weird that way.

A long time ago, I read a book called Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mom. Some of my response is still here: http://audsandens.blogspot.com/2011/02/all-above-average.html

I’ve always loved the idea of school. I wanted to go to a school like Anne of Green Gables did. I wanted my teacher to be Miss Stacey. And I did have a few Miss Stacey’s in my life – just not enough of them. When I first started homeschooling my kids, I wanted their homeschool to be like what I thought school should be like.

I stood at the head of the dining room table. We said pledge. We pulled out our books. I taught lessons. It felt like playing school. And it felt kind of dumb and posed. After a while, we all started to dread “doing” school as much as well used to dread going there. If you’re home, why pretend you’re in a school? What’s the fun of being home then?

So I read a little. I met Sandra Dodd and other great unschool advocates (online – not in person). I started to ask the kids what they wanted to learn. We went to the library and found books on those things. Then we went to the store and bought supplies to make those things.

I didn’t help much. I’m a great guide. I would make a great guidance counselor. I excel at helping people find and use resources. As the mother of unschoolers, this is my greatest strength. Well, that and I like to do crazy things like drive around the country in a school bus, run dogsleds, and take flying lessons.

In this article, a teacher asked students if they thought their school was like a prison.

ONE YOUNG MAN STARTED THE DISCUSSION WITH SOMETHING ALONG THE LINES OF, “WHY IS SCHOOL LIKE PRISON? WE DON’T HAVE ANY FREEDOM HERE. THE TEACHERS JUST ORDER US AROUND, AND TELL US WHAT TO DO, AND IF WE DO ANYTHING THEY DON’T LIKE, WE GET PUNISHED FOR IT.”

Alfie Kohn said: “One is repeatedly struck by the absurd spectacle of adults insisting that children need to become self-disciplined or lamenting that ‘kids just don’t take responsibility for their own behavior’—while spending their days ordering children around. The truth is that, if we want children to take responsibility for their own behavior, we must first give them responsibility, and plenty of it. The way a child learns how to make decisions is by making decisions, not by following directions.”

We unschool not because I don’t think children should be educated. I unschool because I don’t think education is something you can force on a person. How much of your high school history do you remember? I loved history and reading and literature, but I only remember well the things I learned by snagging interesting looking books off the bookshelf at school and then hiding them under my desk to read while the actual class was going on.

 

I remember distinctly, though, the feeling of being locked up for days at a time. I know my kids will be bored sometimes. And they should be – we all get bored and have to sort ourselves out. But I don’t want them to be forced to be bored with no way to unbored themselves. I LOVE that my kids search YouTube for projects to do – or come up with all sorts of things completely on their own. Like forts and puzzles and games. I frequently come home from work and see that they’ve made up their own board game or have invented a new device for something or another.

Sometimes, they just spend all day hanging out and reading books from the library. We recently saw dolphins on a trip and Kiara is now marine animal obsessed – learning biology and animal behavior while Seamus loves to build with Legos and create everything from tablet holders to robots or whatever.

And yes – we do math. I also email the kids writing prompts and come home to wonderful stories and drawings. Their dad takes them on field trips and to homeschool group and let’s them bake or earn money by working in the yard.

I want them to learn responsibility by being responsible for things, not being told what responsibility is and then getting ordered to be responsible. I want them to take charge of their learning not inform them of what they should learn. But I also help. My kids aren’t just left to their own devices, floundering around, directionless. We suggest. We share. We buy books and show them things. We buy telescopes and robotics kits and snap circuits and art supplies and say “Here. Try this.” Or don’t.

We drive around. We go to new places. We ask a lot of questions. We watch TV. We watch movies. Then we ask more questions.

We hang out together.

We learn to resolve conflict by hanging out together.

We play games.

We sit.

We gripe.

We fight.

We argue.

We laugh.

We eat – a lot.

And we are almost always together. And when we’re not, we can’t wait to hear about the adventures of those who were away.

We unschool because we want to live our lives not constantly be looking forward to them.

My Autistic, Unschooled Kid is Now in College – and doing just fine thanks!

How Unschooling Really Works

My son Liam is 18. He just finished his first semester in college. I am very proud of him. So what? You say. So did a gazillion other kids this fall. Well, that’s true. But there is a difference. My son Liam is autistic – and he’s never taken a final exam before in his life. Or a mid-term. Or any kind of standardized test.

Until this fall, Liam was completely unschooled. He went to a few years of school when he was younger — kindergarten through second grade. Then it was clear that the whole school thing was not going to work for him. Without getting into too much detail, classrooms are too loud for Liam and he couldn’t do the school work. Also, he hated worksheets and sitting all day. What he did like was fixing his teachers’ computers. He was six and this was what he wanted to do. If Mrs. Reed was having trouble with her internet access or had a virus, Liam was her man. Again…he was six.

After meetings with special ed people and IEP’s and psychologists and three days of tests (that Liam actually liked), we decided that perhaps Liam would just be better off at home. I got all excited about being Liam’s teacher. In fact, my other son, Alex, wanted to stay home too, so now I had two pupils and I went a little nuts. I turned the dining room into a classroom and we said the Pledge every morning. I wrote things on the chalkboard and we read the books we were supposed to read and we did math and then science and then we had “recess.”

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How Thinking About Suicide Comforted Me

The Drawer:

The manly smell of my father’s things wafted out of the drawer as I slid it open. As a small child, I loved to look at my father’s box. It was a place where he kept strange little things I didn’t yet understand. A medal from the National Guard. A picture of my mom long before I knew her. Small pins that represented things I didn’t know about. A picture of himself in what I assumed was his favorite car. A ticket. A matchbook or two. I would hold these things in my fingers, tracing their edges, and wonder what magical meaning they had and what made them so worthy of this box. Nothing of me was in it.

I was 15 now, though, and the pins and pictures had long since held any mystery for me. I only went into my father’s drawer for one thing usually. Spare change. Inside this drawer was an assortment of coins and dollars that I pilfered because my friends always got to go “overstreet” for lunch and I never did. In my tiny Vermont hometown, overstreet is literally the term for crossing over the street and going to the store. Other kids would go and buy Mountain Dew and chips for lunch. I never got to do that. My mother always sent a check for hot lunch which cost about 75 cents a day, or she would humiliate me and make me pay with change, including the pennies. No, it did not occur to me that there were people in the world who couldn’t afford lunch. I was a precocious, self-absorbed, self-conscious teen and could not have cared less about such things. At least, not how they related to the fact that I had to pay for my lunch with pennies from my mother’s piggy bank.

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Why “Just Average” is the New Awesome

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My fancy big book that made me think I was special – for a while.

From the time I was very small, I was led to believe that I was special. I was an only child, so really, my every whim was indulged. Every toy I wanted at Christmas magically appeared and anything I wanted to try I was, pretty much, able to do. As I got older, I learned to love the “gold star.” I entered every school contest, almost every club, and played every sport (to be fair, my school was very small and only offered three sports – one for each season).

I grew up believing I could do or be anything I wanted. And pretty much, I have. I’ll be honest, though, it hasn’t always been enough. As my adult life evolved simultaneously as a parent (I had my first child at 19), so did the world. There was no Internet when my first couple of kids were born and so everything I knew about parenting I read in books or saw on TV. I started to evolve as a person and develop my own passions too, which included writing, homesteading, and dog mushing in addition to my parenting.

And I wanted to be the best at those things. I wanted other people to acknowledge I was the best. I wanted my gold star. 

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How to Make Chocolate from Cacao Beans

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Yes, I made these. From beans that I processed from these:

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We have the good fortune to live on a small farm in Hawaii. On our farm are many cacao and coffee trees. Unfortunately, due to years of neglect, the coffee isn’t fairing so well, and we will likely have to cut a lot of it down. I hope to put a herd of dairy goats out that way soon. When we first moved here, I wasn’t sure how you could get chocolate from these pods. A little research and a lot of trial and error yielded our first cocoa powder (which was amazing) and now we have learned how to make actual chocolates and chocolate bars. We even sell them occasionally!

So, how do you start?

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How to Move to Hawaii

Beautiful Mauna Lani Hotel beach.

Beautiful Mauna Lani Hotel beach.

You can do it!

As a life long lover of winter, my friends and family were quite surprised when we moved to Hawaii. Other friends, couldn’t believe we could do it. Most people who ask me about it wonder, “how do you just move to Hawaii?” “Isn’t it expensive?” or “Isn’t it hard to do?”

Believe it or not…not really. The hardest part is generally figuring out where to go once you get here. In our case, after figuring out the cheapest flights here (out of San Jose, CA; one way; on New Year’s Day), it was a matter of making hotel reservations and then finding piece of land we both liked and could afford.

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Me, My Dad, and Yard Sale Saturday

fleamarketA typical summer Saturday morning during the first 15 years of my life always began the same way. No matter where we lived or what kind of car we drove. My father would brew coffee and then tell me to “get a move on.” Now, most kids would complain and whine and moan — and I did — but I was not being told to do chores. No. I was being told to get in the car at the ungodly hour of 6 am so we could go yard saling.

Yard sales are where my father lives and breathes. If you go into his garage, which is really a neat version of a “Hoarders” home, you will find boxes and stacks of all of his yard sale finds. Walk into my parent’s home, and you will enter a very tidy suburban home. Everything perfectly clean and in its proper place. However, once you enter the basement or the garage, you enter, the “junk” zone. Alternatively, this could be called the “collectible” zone. My father still has Wheaties boxes that you are not allowed to open or eat the cereal out of because Cal Ripken Jr. is on the front.

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Hawaii Con Fun

We spent some time on the Kohala Coast last weekend playing at Hawaii Con! What a fun event. If you are geeky like us and into Star Trek or Battlestar Galactica or anime or anything similar – check it out. We really had a fun time and were sad we could only spend one day there. We hope to volunteer next year – or come for the whole thing. Also, the Mauna Lani resort is AMAZING. Definitely worth the trip!

Beautiful Mauna Lani Hotel beach.

Beautiful Mauna Lani Hotel beach.

 

The Trouble with Tribbles

The Trouble with Tribbles

 

Seamus enjoying a Hawaii Five-O hot dog - Portuguese sausage, wrapped in bacon, covered in pineapple salsa and cole slaw. Mega-yum!

Seamus enjoying a Hawaii Five-O hot dog – Portuguese sausage, wrapped in bacon, covered in pineapple salsa and cole slaw. Mega-yum!

 

Commander Riker at HawaiiCon 2016. Such a funny man!

Commander Riker at HawaiiCon 2016. Such a funny man!

 

Cylons attacked Seamus!

Cylons attacked Seamus!

 

Beautiful Mauna Lani Hotel beach.

Beautiful Mauna Lani Hotel beach.

 

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